I LOVE me some New Year's resolutions. Great thread, Brother Nedro! Or at least it WILL be, when more people weigh in. So here's a couple of mine of the top of my ADD head:
Far and away #1: Be mindful when I play. Am I relaxed? Break it down: are my fingers, wrists, arms, shoulders, neck relaxed? Am I tapping on the 1/3? Emphasizing the 2/4 (or 1/3 on a Waltz)? Play in front of a mirror now and then, to check it out. Notice the bellows, have a light touch and "let it breathe"
#2: Play with people as often as possible. Have an unassailable internal metronome for the occasions.
#3: Play as often as possible. At least an hour/day. Simultaneously try to stay married . . .
#4: Learn to sing 2 verses of every song I play. When I do, try to notice if any Cajuns in the area are drawing weapons or gathering rope and torches.
#5: Learn 2 new songs/month. Keep working on the songs I know.
#6: Try to remember every single thing Chris Miller has ever told me. Whenever I have a life-changing Cajun accordion learning epiphany, remember that Chris tried to teach/tell me the same thing 3 1/2 years ago . . .
#7: Help and support others on this journey the very best I can.
Now, Nedro! I would NEVER stand back and do that kind of thing...I have been at this endeavor long enough to know better than that. Playing and recording myself is one of the things I am loathe to do, but know that to be a valuable learning tool as suggested by many advancing students/players. Who knows maybe that should be added to the list. Personally, lately just picking the box up is a chore..
Or y'all could record yourselves and show each other your, ahem, stuff privately on youtube, which has that capability. It's a great way to trade videos back and forth with the rest of the world being none the wiser.
What you choose to show each other as mature, consenting adults from the privacy of your own homes is your business . . .
But kidding aside, recording yourself and watching/listening to the results is a great learning tool, albeit an often uncomfortable one - have you ever recorded your voice and thought, "Wow, I sound a LOT better than I thought!"? Smiles - me either. But if you can get past the initial feeling of wanting to sell all your instruments and hide in the closet in a fetal position, you can learn a wealth of things from the experience.
The main thing is not to get discouraged, and realize you have time and that you're learning, and that the process itself can be as fun as you want to make it.
Thanks for your advice and ideas.
The thing is- I've been using my pinky too much!
when I said reserving my pinky, I'm trying to use my index and ring fingers for most octaves- the meat of the tune, especially on the low end then hammering on with the pinky when I want to make the tune squeal/scream or whatever best describes it. So the pinky is left sticking out much like we english drink tea- well not sticking right out cus fingers need to be close to buttons but kind out suspended till the right moment when the hand splays and it comes in like a killer sting. I've noticed Big Nick and Jim Pettijohn doing this if I'm not mistaken. Jim does it to brilliant effect in that waltz he posted on the vintage german box he restored.